What does a bridge look like?

In the therapy group about inner conflicts, we not only looked at what types of inner conflicts exist, but also at how to build a bridge between the two parties that are struggling or fighting with each other.

We explored this through an exercise.
We took the contrast of hard and soft and gave it form in clay.

While working with clay and processing the theme in clay, a lot happens. And since it takes time to create a figure, there is time to think about the theme.

During the follow-up discussion, we reflected together on how a bridge can be built.
Taking distance, accepting the presence of both sides, asking for help, seeking distraction, talking to someone else were mentioned.
Taking distance and seeking distraction provide space to examine the conflict. This is not possible when both sides are fighting inside you with all the thoughts and feelings involved.
Accepting the situation as it is now gives room to look further. For if you do not accept how it is now, you fight against the situation and have no space to find a solution.
Asking for help and talking to someone else can give you a new perspective on what is happening inside.

The most difficult part is looking at the situation without judgment. Because you are fighting and want it to stop. You want to get rid of it! But that does not succeed without pausing, taking distance, looking at it, and examining what is really going on.
Often we want to go straight to the solution. But if we do not know exactly what is going on, you can never find a lasting solution. Hiding, putting away, ignoring – this gives temporary space, but it is not the solution. It is not easy to endure, yet it is necessary to move forward.